Brother in Law

[Phyllis L. Jackson]

I just lost my brother Daniel this past April and now my brother in law has passed away in August. My brother and brother in law were the same age, 61. I am 43 so both of these men saw me grow up. I have some good days when I go to the office and others when I can't stand be around anyone.
It is getting a bit easier, I'm still having problems with sleep and I now dream of my brother on a regular basis which makes me feel good for awhile and then I have this aweful feeling of dread and shear pain.
I do know this is a process but I want everyone out there to know that I am here for you and I always will be.

God bless and know that you are loved.
Phyllis

[Angie/Shinetoday]

Bless your heart for your willingness to be there for others in spite of your own heartache. Out of love, I am going to say too much here. When my mom passed on..we had literally walked through life together and best of friends so it was extra hard. The Bible tells us to always be thankful so I tried to look for the Blessings and came to realize that my mom had belonged to God first, she was His..and I had to thank Him for Blessing me with such a wonderful and special mom for as long as humanly possible until cancer took her life. To Christians, death is but a door to eternal life so I know we will resume that walk together again one day, at a time of Gods choosing.
On your dreams of your brother..be careful there. I know a woman that lost her only son and she was very distraught....she spent countless hours at the cemetary sitting on his grave and pouring her heart and grief out through writing poetry. Then one night she dreamed of her son..and his smiling face. That was the beginning of dreams that started out so sweetly and then turned into some horrible nightmares with the same feeling you describe of dread and sheer pain. What happened to her is she wanted this son back so badly that a demon was more than happy to oblige her. It's the same as when a widow would go to a seance and wants to know about her late husband and gets to talk to "him" She isn't talking to her husband in Heaven, what this is again, is demonic activity. Anything that brings fear...we either live a faith based life(God) or a fear(satan) based life. If you discern the spirits in that way..any that cause fear are ones to rebuke, renounce and tell them in Jesus name you won't be a part of it.. I don't want to see this fear thing happen to you..it took an exorcist to get rid of the horror of this demon masquerading as her son out of her life.
After my mom died someone sent me this beautiful poem by Ruth McAffey and it really helped me so maybe it will for you too:
Letter from Heaven
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say.
But first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; Here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through.
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you.

It's good to have you back again, you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, They'll be here later on.
I need you here badly, you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years.
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry: it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too;
That as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain;
Then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life was worthwhile.
Knowing as I passed along the way I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low;
Just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go....from that body to be free.
Remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Written by: Ruth Ann Mahaffey

[Phyllis L. Jackson]

I thank God daily for bringing all of you into my life, Angie thank you for the beautiful, honesty, wisdom and caring that you shared with me. I will forever treasure your words and I will also be aware that Satan loves pain and God loves healing.

Your Sister in Faith,
Phyllis

[Sam Oliver]

Thank You for sharing Phyllis. We are all in this together aren't we.

Sam Oliver

[Phyllis L. Jackson]

Sam,

Yes we are in this together.

Thank you for always being there.

Phyllis

[Christopher Legey]

Dear Phyllis
My name is Chris
and I want you to know you are in my prayers
and those feelings that you are feeling, they are natural.
You are in the middle of grieving.
(grieving may take years)
but know this.
those sentiments you feel that are good, keep those in mind & in heart. dont let the negative enter fear
I know it is easier said then done but You have god on your side
& in your heart. So all in all fallow your heart.
With much Love & Respect
CHRIS

[Phyllis L. Jackson]

Chris,

Thank you so much the out pouring of support, love and caring is helping me a great deal. It's helping me to realize ad know that there are people who really do care and pray for me. I always knew that I was blessed but this is amazing.

Thank you Chris and may God always keep you in his loving spirit.

Phyllis

[John]

Phyllis :- Thank you for sharing your grief with us. I too lost both my parents within a short space of time
as well as another dear friend more recently. I found that uplifting experiences of others extremely
helpful. One such site on the net was - http://onlinesincerelyyours.net/?page_id=4
May God bless you and give you strength to endure.

[Phyllis L. Jackson]

John,

Thank you for your thoughful words and care. May God keep you in his good grace always.

Phyllis

[Jeanne Christie]

Hi Phyllis,
It's so good of you to think of other people when you are suffering as you are!
I dream of my sister, Mum, Dad and Granny regularly, but it's great as I have 'really' seen them in my dream!
I know that they are always around me.
They would want you to live your life with joy, as you would them -if it were the other way round!
That's what we are here to do.
You will see them again when the time is right.
When we' lose' our loved ones, it makes us think of our own mortality!
Passing over to the next dimension is as natural as being born,
enjoy your time here.
Lots of Love
Jeanne
xx

[Serena Ellis]

Sharing of grief is healing our some pain. I feel so sorry for your brother and brother in law. I know two deaths in short time is very painful. Dream of our loved one is relax us for some time and we feel happy. I lost my uncle 3years ago and its really shocked me. I have dream of my uncle and I feel happy in this time.
I pray to God may your brothers rest in peace. My condolences and prayers with you.
((((((((HUGS))))))))))

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